Keeping It Real

i'm so tired that i could (and actually want) to fall over.  i've even attempted sleep already.  for all of about 3 minutes, i laid in bed and closed my eyes.  closed them long enough to realize that i was not ready for this day to end.

yet again, i come to the close of another birthday.  echo in april, zane in may and now reese and maddox in june.  i don't know what it is about their birthdays.  i love them.  i love that i get to reminisce on what this day is, what it was, and what it will be.

today, june 27th, is special because it was the day that i took on a new name.

mommy

this is a title that i hold very dear.  a title that i hear much too often.  a name that i often try and hide from, plug my ears to and roll my eyes at.

"mommy, mom, mother, mama, mummy, mum, moooooaaaam, but mommy, mom can i, no mommy, yes mommy, mom can i, mom can you, mama i want, mommy i need....."  

i can't tell you how many times i've hidden in the pantry this summer.  intentionally walked out of a room.  slinked my way out of an area.  closed (and locked) the bathroom door....for just a moment of peace.

but today, today i welcomed the name calling.  the name rang loud and clear.  today i was able to hang out with the two of them alone.  zane and echo were at a day camp and so i was able to have a true "reese and maddox day".  it was fantastic, easy, silly and fun.  they are two little people with strong opinions, deep emotions and fantastically humorous personalities.

they are 7.

last night i had tucked in my 6 year old twins for the last time.  i knew that from that moment on, they would never be 6 again.  and it's not that 6 is some golden number.  however, if i'm being honest, i will say that i'm a even-number-kind-of-girl....odd numbers are not as cool...unless you are talking about number 13...which is my most favorite and most lucky number of all.  and then odd is good...it's very good!

i digress...

after kissing them in their sleep last night and going to bed, i realized that the clock keeps ticking.  and it ticks fast.  i've barely blinked and the years have gone by.  who are these two seven year olds and where did my babies go?  not that i'm sad!  noooo, i'm thrilled with their ages.  they are funny, smart, conversational, inquisitive, rational (most of the time) and down right fun to be around.  i love this age!  i think the next few years are going to be a blast (as long as that pantry is available for me to hide in).  yes, i'm excited about this coming year.  and i'm shocked that it came so soon.

7 years ago today, i became a mother to two tiny human beings.  to me, there is no greater title on earth.    it was a title that i dreamed of, welcomed, celebrated, longed for.  it is still all of those things.  that one day, 7 years ago, changed so much for me.

as i went up tonight to watch them sleep as i do most every night...because i'm one of those freaky moms who stands over her children's beds at night....(i swear, one day one of them is going to wake up at age 15 and completely freak out and lose their ever loving mind when they see me standing over them).  and as i stood there, i realized that one day can make such a huge difference.  reese and maddox walked around all day today, strutting their 7 year old stuff, thinking and acting like they were so big.  they were even talking about how they were going to do things differently, "now that i'm 7".  this was like a new year's day for them.  making resolutions, vows and promises.  i loved it.  out with the old, in with the new!

some of these promises they may keep, some will fade away, some flew out the door the moment the words came out of their mouths.  however, some promises will slowly set in and become natural and normal.  because as they get older, they will just start losing some of their old ways, some of the young, immature things they do, the baby in them will drift further and further away.  they will lose it.  it will be gone.

maybe that's why i hold onto birthdays so tightly.  maybe it's why i don't want the day to end.  however, i guarantee you, if one woke up and came down right now, i would totally go into my pantry. either that, or play possum right here on my couch.  stone cold still is what i would be, in hopes that they don't come down to ask for water or a band-aid, or anything else that they can conjure up at this time of night.  i mean, i loved this day...but i'm too tired.  and, let's be honest, the best times for a mother to sit and think, is late at night, when the children are sleeping.  and they are quiet...oh dear precious mercy...

they.  are.  quiet!

i don't know that i learned any valuable lesson today or tried to inspire myself with words or feelings.  i just enjoyed the day.  just lived it for what it was worth.  enjoyed being with the two crazy beings who got this whole family going in such a wild and fun direction.  i just simply enjoyed simple today.  it was a really good day.

happy birthday, reese and maddox.  thank you for my new title 7 years ago.   you changed everything about me (from cool, chick girl to maniac mama).  you made me see the world differently (germy and dangerous).  you changed my heart and you sent my life into orbit from the moment i held you both in my arms (and tried to figure out how to simultaneously nurse you).  there is no greater title for me to have, so thanks for being the first to set it into motion.  and thanks for forcing me to keep my sense of humor during the craziest times of my life.  you've turned me into a maniac, germophobic, panic sticken, confused and humbled girl.  how can i not see the humor in all of that!?

thanks for keeping it real.  i love you both endlessly.

"And the child grew and became strong; he was filled with wisdom, and the grace of God was on him."  Luke 2:40

Our Day...Gotcha!

on this very day, two years ago, they handed you over and placed you in my arms.  it was like no other "birth" i'd ever experienced but it was one that i had dreamed of for several years.

First contact.  May 30, 2011

i shake as i write.

i'm not sure if it's the overindulgence of coffee from this morning or the fact that i know you will one day read this and it scares me to think how you will interpret my words.  i never know with you.  you always keep me on my toes, testing me, taunting me....teaching me.

just yesterday, i found some of your diaries that were kept for you at your orphanage by your nannies and various missionaries that visited your orphanage.  there are so many names, so many who held you, so many who gave you hugs and kisses.  so many who loved you.  all of them, i had once prayed for, even though i'd never known them, nor would i ever.

they called you eve.  that was your name in the orphanage.  eve.  you also had the name yu yi.  another name.  and then in we came.  two big white people who swooped you up and started calling you echo?  how were you to know who you are?  how were you to know your name?

so many names.

as i went through your things and placed them in your room, i could not help but feel a million emotions.  one was excitement.  your new room.  this bedroom that i envisioned you in the moment we moved in.  once i saw that we would have a "spare" bedroom, i knew deep within that it would not be spare for long.  no, not for long.  i remembered moving into this house in december.  by january, i began my search for you and my focus became secretly neurotic by february.  i was determined to get you in that room as quickly as possible.  time was of the essence it seemed.

i also felt sadness.  so many things you had to go through to get where you are.  i can be so impatient with you at times, pushing you along, forcing you to blend in, buck up, get it right, calm down, speed up, act right, smile, eat your dinner, don't eat too much, use your words, don't talk now...

so many rules.

and i must be honest that i felt a twinge of anger.  i wanted more of your history.  i wanted a letter from your birth mom.  there.  i said it.  she held onto you for 2 months before placing you at the back door of your orphanage.  she had quiet moments with you, she fed you, she put you to sleep, she carried you for nine months!  just a letter... a tiny letter for me to have. for you to have.  i wanted a letter.  i wanted to know more about you.  i wanted to keep that among all of your most precious keepsakes.  i cry now thinking about it.  it makes me angry that i get angry about this simple thing.  a letter.  i should be much stronger than this by now.  i should have an answer for you, ready for the day that you ask questions that will rock my world.  questions about your birth mom, the who's, the why's, the what ifs.  yes, i should be ready.  and i'm not.  i have no idea what i will say to you one day when you ask these things.  you didn't come with a manual and so half the time, i just have to wing it.

i wing it.  the best way i can.  and even when it's my best, i fail.  there are days that i'm scared you won't love me like i love you.  it makes me want to pull away, to keep my distance, to keep you at arms length so that i don't get hurt when you tell me one day that i'm not the mom you wanted.  i know that's silly for an adult to feel that way.  but i wonder if you feel that way too sometimes.  maybe we feel those emotions together?  maybe we are both afraid of loving too much.  maybe we are afraid to let some of our walls down.

July 2011

today marks two years.  "gotcha day".  i first heard about this day from a little girl named jade.  i taught her in 2nd grade before having children of my own.  she was spunky and bright.  a total tom-boy.  we were in line, going to the lunchroom when i asked her, "why are you so bouncy today?"  (truly, i'd never seen her in such high spirits before!)  she told me that this was her "gotcha day".  i had no idea what that was but wanted to know more.  she told me all about it.  she told me that this was her best day, even better than her birthday!  and then she said, "my mom loves this day!"  i choke back tears even now.  little jade and her mom shared that day together.  of course her mother loved it.

i love this day too.  i love this day because it was the first day i held you, the first day we became a complete family.  it was our family birth day.  you completed it.  in my moments of guilt for loving this day more than your birthday, i remind myself of jade and her bouncy little walk that day.  i remind myself that THIS is the day that we share together.  THIS is our day.  this is not the miracle of conception or the miracle of birth but rather the miracle of adoption.  because it is a miracle that you, of all the chinese babies, you were the one they placed in my arms.  you were the one i'd waited for.

you had so many names until that point, but in that moment you had a new name.  mine.  you were mine, you are mine, you will always be mine.  and as scary as that may be for you, it is forever true.  you can't get rid of me.  i'm yours.

echo, you are such a bright and loving little girl.  you love attention, hugs, laps to sit in, people to spoil you.  you crave approval in almost all areas.  you strive to succeed and loath failure.  you are witty.  you are kind.  you are a grouchy morning person.  (you make me and your sister look like angels in the morning!)  you adore your brothers, you admire your sister, you're in awe of your daddy.  you love being outside.  you are impatient, you are stubborn.  you are a fighter.

my favorite spot to kiss you is right in between your eyes.  i love how soft your skin is.  i love your nose, your brown eyes and the mysterious way that your eyelids smoosh your lashes down but they never seem to get in your eyes...i love your beauty spot on your arm.

happy Gotcha Day to my sweet, loving, spunky, naughty, fighting, whining, stubborn little girl.  this is our day, echo.  this is my letter to you, as your mom.

now we have a letter.

let's put it in your keepsake box.

March 2013

April 2013

"The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace."  Numbers 6:24-26

My Little White Flag

i've taken a moment to sit down.  i can count on one hand how many times my bottom has met the couch in the last several weeks.  it seems every time i get close to contact with this beloved piece of furniture, something needs to be done, someone needs me or there is somewhere i need to go.  and although my older children have found a new independence after moving back, there is still much that i have to do with them, for them and to them.

the day we moved back, my older two children asked if they could start waking before me to fix their own breakfast.  usually they wake me to help them or lay in bed until they know i'm up.  lately, they've wanted to get up and do it themselves.  they promised to clean up after they finished.  i had to give this a bit of thought.  it might be kinda nice to have some help in the mornings.  normally, my day starts with an elbow in the face or a knee in my pelvis, and hearing a small child say, "is it morning time?!" or "the sun is up!"  this is followed by my mother-octopus arms going into full effect as i single-handedly feed my tiny army in less than 30 minutes.  usually they all request a different breakfast and i find myself making not one, but 3-4 different breakfasts.  hmmm, yes, having them do for themselves might be nice...i'll wave that white flag.  i surrender.  you guys give it a go.  see how it works out.  i give.  so after watching reese and maddox complete the task on their own for 3 days in a row, i decided they could do it.  they haven't looked back since and continue to surprise me with their independence.  they've even taught zane how to fend for himself in the mornings.  oh sweet relief.

thank goodness i waved my white flag.  i've never known what it is like to fix breakfast for one child.  echo's eggs have never been so warm, her banana cut so freshly...and my coffee?  oh yes, it is hot as well.

last week, i had cleaned the closets and reached a point of mental and physical exhaustion.  i put echo down for a nap and somehow managed to get horizontal on our couch.  the children were watching wipe out.  zane had made his way over to press his little body into mine saying, "move over a little mommy, i want your warm spot."  

really?  i just got here?  i can't even have my own "warm spot" because you want to take even that.  but i was so tired, i moved over to have him take over.  i waved my white flag.  i give up.  i give in.  i surrender.  after letting me rest for a few minutes, zane turned to me and got right in my face.  "mommy, are you sick?"  i told him no.  "mommy, am i sick?"  i told him no and briefly thought how sad that he thinks one of us must be sick just because i've laid down.  but before i could think anymore, he replied, "good, because i want to kiss you on the lips."  and with that he grabbed my face and laid one on me.

thank goodness i waved my flag in that moment.  a passionate kiss from a freshly turned 5 year old is rare and wonderful.

and a few days ago, echo had one of her days where words could or would not form for her.  when she gets into her mood, it is as if she is locked up and no one can find the key.  this was her day.  pure lock-down.  i'm a talker, a thinker, a communicator.  so to have this one shut down on me is pure torture.  it makes me want to kick and scream and cry.  heath has described it like putting two immovable forces in front of each other.  i fight, she fights, i step up, she steps up.  i push her to talk, she sits in silence.  we were late for an event, a friend's retirement, that i had been looking forward to for months.  we were late because she refused to pee in the potty, even though i knew she had to go.

i got her into the car along with the other hoodlums, ran back into the house to grab something and stopped for a quick prayer, i was desperate.  "Lord, help me to love this child when she seems unlovable like this.  i give up.  i give in.  i need help.  i need Your heart and Your eyes.  i wave my flag.  i surrender."  

i have found, since that plea, that i've regained a little more patience.  i've had the dearest of friends reach out to comfort and help.  i've been given contacts of professionals to call for her speech therapy.  i've been given hope.  not that hope was lost at all!  no, this little one is far from hopeless.  honestly, i think she is such a strong cookie!  she is strong, capable and resilient.

i'm so glad i waved that white flag.  i've waved my little echo flag quite a bit.  it shouldn't amaze me when God swoops in and lifts me up or holds me tight to get me through, and yet, it is still amazing that He answers.  such a tiny request.  such a huge answer.

yes, my white flag has been used quite a bit these last few weeks.  usually i like to regard myself as a fighter, one who needs little, one who can laugh her way out of anything, one who can see the light at the end of any tunnel.  but there are moments when i just have to give up.  give in.

wave my little white flag.

i constantly tell myself to buck up, fight the good fight, hang in there, be strong, keep going, find my way, feel my way, fight my way through whatever is going on in life.  big and small.  but it's the moments and times when i wave my flag that everything becomes more clear, more manageable, more freeing.  i gain perspective.  i gain insight.  i gain patience and peace.

last night i told echo is was time for daddy to take her up to bed. i expected her to give me that pouty face and shut down.  toddlers know when they are the first to go to bed.  she knows very well that the other get to stay up later and she can't stand it.  i asked for a kiss and told her i loved her.  she simply stood up and looked at all of us and said, "i love you guys".  i think my jaw hit the ground right that second.  and then she went down the line, "i love you reesie, i love you zane, i love you maddox, i love you mommy, i love you daddy."

maybe she's waving her flag too.  maybe she's giving in just a little as well.  maybe she's letting her wall down, surrendering.

you know that phrase, "God never gives us more than we can handle".  well, i believe we do have times in our lives where there is more than we can handle.  and it's in those times that we have to call on  The Big upstairs to pull us through.  i was making that phone call.  "i need You."

the wilson summer started 5 weeks ago.  we have more than 2 months to go.  i'm going to wrangle these kids the best way i can, honor independence where i need to, steal passionate kisses when i can, and communicate as often as possible.  i'm also going to keep a few little white flags in my back pocket.  i never know when i'm going to have to throw one up.

moms, it's summer time.  get your flags ready.

"Lord, I crawled across the barrenness to you with my empty cup...If only I had known you better, I'd have come running with a bucket."  -Nancy Spiegelberg 

Don't Close The Door

i've caught myself saying a common phrase over the last couple of weeks since we've been back in the states.

"don't close the door!" when the three big kids clamber in the car and shut echo out so that she can't get in.  seriously, that's just mean.

"don't close the door!" when the children are playing upstairs, running and slamming doors while laughing and yelling.  i can just visualize a finger getting smashed.

"don't close the door."  while echo "helps" to put groceries away.  i leave all cabinets and fridge doors open while i unload.  time saver.

"don't close the door." as the children run outside to play.  i need to hear them from the kitchen as i clean up after the meal.

"don't close the door."  as i open the dishwasher.  i like to have them air-dry overnight.

"don't close the door." i say to heath as we go to sleep at night.  i want to make sure the children know they can come in at any time.

i have wanted to sit down and write about my last couple of days while in london and yet, the days (and now weeks) are starting to go by.  i feel as though i did not put a final stamp on my time there.  i left it open and undone.  messy and without closure.  i don't like to leave things in any of these ways so i needed to sit down and write.

our last few days were just what i thought they would be, rushed, stressful and quick.  our last few days were unexpected in that i thought we would be able to do just a little bit more before we left, a few more sites to see, a couple more places to go.  and our last days were everything i hoped they would be, sweet goodbyes to friends and neighbors, trainers, baristas and david.  our last few days held a little bit of every emotion and it was all wrapped into one.  i bet that's the way that most goodbyes usually go.

saying goodbye to our porters was tough.  the children and i wrote them letters and we went by and said our thanks and gave our farewells.  it was difficult to leave them, the "safety", that they had been for almost two years for us.  these men had kept up with our going and coming on a daily basis.  i think it's safe to say that they knew us better than most, if by only watching how we go in and out all day long.  a continuous revolving door.  not to mention their desk was right by our front door.  i'm sure they heard more than they wanted to.  and our huge front window was right where they positioned themselves during the day.  i'm guessing they saw enough as well.  poor guys.

we said goodbye to Flat 1.  i walked through each room as the children waited outside talking with the porters.  i took in the sights, the smells, the sounds.  it brought me back to the day we first moved in and how we began this journey in the first place.  we had filled this flat with love and laughter, tears, potty training, bedtime stories, cooked turkeys, burnt dinners, movie nights, dance parties...the list is endless.  we had filled it and now it was empty.  all those memories were packed up.  as i left, i felt "don't close the door".  because to close it would feel too painful.

we walked across the street to see david.  i'd written david a three page letter.  yes, hand-written.  i can't tell you the last time i wrote a three page, hand-written letter....high-school maybe?  i'm serious.  who hand-writes letters anymore?  i had written all the things that i'd wanted to say to david but never took the time, had the guts or felt the need to say.  i wrote it all out.  honestly, it seemed almost like a love-letter.  that sounds really silly.  but it was more of a love-letter than anything else.  how could it not be?  i loved him.

when we saw david, the children rushed to him and began to tell him that we were leaving, today was our last day.  he knew this day was coming and he asked them questions and smiled and acted excited for them.  i handed him my note and a few quid and asked him to read it, please don't throw it away.  please keep it and read it.  we talked awhile longer, got a quick photo of him and the children, gave big hand squeezes and walked away.  i turned around to see him opening the letter as soon as we walked away.  he couldn't wait to read it.

the baristas at our local starbucks had asked us to come by on our last day.  they presented us with a london mug that had been signed by each employee.  the 6 of us sat by a window and had our last cup of coffee together....well, the kids had a hot chocolate and echo had a babyccino...

as we hailed our last taxi and were piling in, we saw david across the street and gave our final waves and shouts.  the kids were yelling across the street to him like he was their uncle buck and we were only leaving for a holiday.  we clambered in, "don't close the door" crept to my mind.  as we pulled away, i continued to wave to david like i, myself, was 6 years old.  and then the tears came, fast and furious.  big, wet tears as we pulled out of church street and onto kensington high street.  sweet maddox put his hand on my knee and asked, "are you crying because you'll miss david?"

i'm crying because i will miss everything.  i'm crying because i hate goodbye.  i'm crying because our journey is over.  i'm crying because i'm sad.  i'm crying because i'm happy.  i'm crying because we are going home.  home.

our flight home turned out to be one of the best trips.  not only were the kids easy and fantastic, but it was the pilot's final flight.  we were greeted in atlanta with two huge firetrucks hosing the plane down as a celebratory retirement tradition.  the pilot's family were all on the aircraft and we signed his uniform for him before landing.  we saw him later at baggage claim and he gave our children sweet treats and wings to wear on their shirts.  he was having one of the best nights of his life.  his smile said it all.

he was certainly closing a door.

and when we arrived home, we pulled into our driveway to see balloons, a welcome home banner, gifts for the kids, sweet tea and other surprises.  our fridge had unknowingly been stocked and the house was cleaned.  we have amazing friends indeed.  indeed.

and to open the door to our home and take in the sights, the smells, the sounds....home.  truly, there is no place like it.  in that moment, as i closed the door, i felt the weight come off.  the fear, the anxiety, the commotion, the confusion, the excitement, the anticipation.  i felt it all come off.  and i knew it was okay.

i closed the door.

i closed it gently, lightly, timidly.

i closed it quietly.

it's okay to close doors.  we have to close a few to open others, right?  it's what we do in life.  we stop.  so we can begin again.  we close.  so we can open.

the fast pace of life hasn't stopped for us since moving out of the city.  it's only gotten more busy.  we are back to reality.  reality is good.

in the last two weeks we've had many doors open over here, car doors, house doors, bathroom doors, closet doors...oh, the closet doors as i clean, straighten and organize those closets!  i don't like to have these doors closed.  i like to have them open.

there is still so much in this life to do.  our children are so young.  we have many new beginnings coming our way.  i have to keep an open mind and an open heart with everything that comes our way.  "don't close the door", i tell myself.

keep it open.  

be ready for anything.

Letting Some Out

it’s bedtime.  all i want to do is rest my head on a big fat pillow and fall fast asleep for the next 48 hours.  i am so tired and so drained that i don’t know where to begin or end.  i feel as though i've not truly slept in the almost 2 years that we've been here.  (wait, i'm a mom...make that almost 7 years.)  today we spent much of the day sorting through clothes  and bathroom supplies (what to trash, what to save).  in our spare moments, we made phone calls and sent emails to prepare for our last few days here and our first few days back in the US.  the list seems endless of “to dos”.

this weekend was much different.  saturday and sunday were filled with cheerful cleaning, sorting, boxing, tossing, laughing....and dinners with friends.  saturday night we had dinner with some of our american friends that we met when we first moved here.    a jersey couple with two precious daughters who were in school with our own.  we ate, we laughed, we talked...it seemed like a night as any other.  even the hug was “see ya later”.  though i believe we held our hugs a little longer and a little tighter this time.

i sit here now and know that “later” could be a very long time away.

sunday we had dinner with one of heath’s co-workers.  he invited us to his home in windsor to have a proper sunday meal cooked by his wife.  they had done the same thing over two years ago when we came with our ( then three) children to visit london and get a feel of the area.  they have two fantastic children who’ve grown from young boys into really handsome young men.  we ate, we laughed, we talked...it seemed like it was all just beginning again.  it seemed as though we’d only been there doing the same thing yesterday...

last night we said goodbye to emma.  i can barely type the words.  our beloved nanny.  my fifth child.  we helped one another in so many ways that i’m sure either of us could never be able to count or put into words.  both of us here on a 2 year visa, trying to make our way in a big city.  we’ve laughed, we’ve cried and we’ve shared very memorable moments together.  saying goodbye to her was as difficult as i was afraid it would be.

and today, after walking up and down my long hallway countless times to pack, sift and sort, i was able to go to the gym to train.  half-way into it, my chest felt heavy and my head felt cloudy.  i could feel the stress that i’ve pushed way down deep begin to surface.  it felt as thought it was seeping from my pores.  begging to be released.

don’t keep me in, let me out.

heath and i have talked for days leading up to this week about how slow this week would crawl.  our anticipation to get home would make this week tick inch by inch, hour by hour.  as he crawled in bed tonight, he kissed me quickly, rolled over, and said, “i was wrong, this week is going to fly by...”

and there is that heaviness again.  the tightness.

don’t keep me in, let me out.

and so i had to sit down and write.  about what, i’m not sure.  i just know that i must let out some of these feelings before they take my body down and beat me to a pulp.  because i know there are still people and things that we have to say goodbye to.  and the first ones were already hard enough.

we have a couple of friends coming over tomorrow night, the guy is another one of heath’s co-workers and his wife.  they have also been here on a two year visa (and applied to stay longer....those young little whipper snappers!).  it seems strange to leave them here.  we’d planned to go back together!

our trainer...as funny as that may sound.  the gym had become my place of refuge.  training and exercise are things that i’m familiar with, something safe, productive and mindless.  my escape.  to say goodbye is much more difficult than i thought.  to think that i would be so sad over leaving a brazilian slave driver is comical.  yet he has silently and consistently been there to whip our stressful bodies into shape each week.  heath and i have come home on certain days laughing in awe at what he has asked us to do during a workout.  you would think he might be our enemy the way that we limp around after a tough training.  yet he has become our friend.

and then there are the people in our neighborhood.  (every time i think “people in your neighborhood”, i start singing the song from sesame street...i bet you do too!)  i have to say goodbye to my baristas, our dry cleaners, the porters....david.

i have to say goodbye to david.

i’ve watched him lately.  i know him well now.  he is helpful to others, smiles when he can, makes jokes when he is feeling well.  i’ve seen him scoff in disgust at uppity, rude women walking by.  i see him looking down, acting invisible, maybe wishing he were.  i’ve seen him talking to others kindly as they give him small change.  i see his lips move to say, “God bless you”.  i know that he can cuss like a sailor when he’s mad and be as gentle as a lamb when my children are around him.  i know that his favorite sandwich is a ham and cheese toasty from costa.  i know that he enjoys hot chicken noodle soup on a cold day.  i know that he gets mad at people who give him peanuts or chips because he doesn’t have any teeth and cant’ chew them!  i know his ex-wife is in russia and he has two grown boys in their early twenties.  and i can tell at least 100 feet away when he is having a hard day.

i know that when i tell him goodbye, it will be forever.  there is no email or home address.  there is no facebook or social networking that we can do to stay in touch.  my time with david will be over.

we have 5 more days.   there is still so much to be done.  tonight heath and i took the children to dinner at maggie jones, the neighborhood restaurant that we went to the night we decided to put a bid on our flat.  we ate there and knew we had found our area, our home away from home.  so it was only fitting that we bring our family there to have one of our last meals together here in “our area”.  the dinner was one i will remember for a long time to come.  we all sat around the table and talked about memories over the last 2 years.  we ate, we laughed, we talked.  when i looking around the table, i couldn’t help but think, we did it.  we made it.  we did this together.  and we are all better for it.  we are more knowledgeable, more outgoing, more adventurous, more accepting and stronger because of this little journey together.  and now we get to go home together and continue that journey.

i’m tired.  all i want to do it sleep.  5 more days.  sleep will come soon.

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Deep Impact

i've spent the last several days going through paperwork, clothes, toys, pictures....all from the last two years.  i need to sift through and weed out the things we no longer need.  we've already given much away, thrown things out, saved some for friends, and tucked away other things that i just can't let go of quite yet.  (yes, i hoard things, at times...shhh.)

this morning i decided to go through my clothes, bag up things i don't want or no longer need so that we could give them away.  we are going to have enough to pack to get us back home.  i certainly don't need extra clothes going back over.  maddox was trying to help me and we were casually talking and bagging when i came upon a pile of clothes that lay hidden under several other "newer" clothes.  i took one look at them and realized i'd not worn them one single time while living over here.  i hadn't thought to put them on, wear them out and about.  i hadn't even missed them.  and what was even more alarming was that they didn't even look like something i would wear!  but obviously, two years ago, these clothes were important enough to be some of my select few that i brought over.  clothes that i felt i would wear often while living here....

how can it be that my taste in clothing changed so much?

i went on looking at the clothes, the shoes, even a straw hat and thought, "where has this girl been for almost two years?"  "who was this girl?"  "where did she go?"

"is she still here?"

i feel like i'm the same on the inside, actually, even more me than i've ever been.  i've learned more about myself in these last two years than i care to know.  but now i know.

we had some major life changes to happen over the last couple of years.  our adoption and a move to another country.  i would say, for me, those are major.  and i have changed because of it.  i have become an altered person of myself.  sometimes change will do that to us.  alter us a bit.

after traveling to so many countries and cities, seeing so many faces, hearing so many languages, tasting so many tastes, seeing so many sights, befriending all walks of life...except for bus drivers...okay, there is one that has dreadlocks and he ties them up around his head.  he's actually pretty cool so i'll let him slide...he has smiled at me a time or two so i think he may actually be human.  but after all of this, i am a different me.  a better version, i think.  i hope.

it's not that i was close minded before coming here.  no, not at all.  we were thrilled to come into a new culture and experience new things, to learn more, to see more, to do more...but to feel more?

feel more?  i didn't know that was going to happen.

so as i was going through these clothes, bagging them up, feelings emerged.    my heart feels even more now than it did two years ago.  i will never be the same.  i will always be a new version of myself because of this journey that we had together.  i will reflect on my time here and it may determine actions or reactions in my future.  i no longer see the world the way that it once was.

it's bigger, but smaller.

it's dangerous, yet safe.

it's scary, yet comforting.

it's wild, and calming.

it's harsh, yet mild.

i've seen so much.  we've had some crazy adventures.  we've had fun and laughed.  we've been scared and cried (well, reese and i have, anyway).  there were points we wanted to come home and end it straightaway.  but we all held on and enjoyed the ride.

we have less than three weeks before we fly back.  we've already had to say a few goodbyes.  we have several more to go.  i have found these goodbyes to be much harder than the goodbyes from two years ago.  back then, it was more of a "see ya later" kind of thing.  it was painful and scary and difficult, but we knew we'd be back.  this time is different.  this time goodbye means goodbye.   for many.  probably for most.  in a city that constantly moves, turns and changes, these goodbyes are forever.

this city and these people have left an impact on my life that i can't explain.  i can no longer say that the country is better than the city.  i can no longer think that people in the city don't know one another or have connections.  it's certainly different, but not better or worse.  just different.  and people are people wherever you go.  it's cliche', but it's really true.  people desire love, laughter, friendship, comfort, safety...

i have all these things in two totally different parts of the world.  big city london and little ole' marietta, georgia.

yes, london has left an impact on me, i hope that i left a tiny print somewhere in london.  i think i may have.  you never know who you touch, how you impact, or what you do to make a difference, and i sincerely hope that i made a difference while i was here.  it would be wrong to take so much from this city and not feel like i have given something in return, right?  give and take.

i am still the same country girl from small town, georgia.  there are too many roots planted there to let me go.  and now, i'm a little bit london, city as well.  the best of both.

so if you see me this summer, in my black tight leggings, dirty wellies, scarf and grey knit hat, don't think too much of it.  i'm just trying to figure myself out again as a southern country girl.


who am i kidding?  hand me some sweet tea and sunblock.  we'll be at the pool!

Did someone say POOL!?

My Hamster Wheel

have you ever seen a hamster on its wheel?  that little hamster will run and run and run.  sometimes he goes so fast that he loses his grip and will do several flips inside the wheel before regaining his composure.  sometimes he doesn't go as fast as the wheel and will get all caught up, flipping and flopping, landing on his back, only to flip back over and begin again.  call me mean, but watching him lose his grip is hysterical.  i've watched a hamster spin on his wheel in true hopes that he loses it and begins to flop around inside that wheel.

okay, that's mean.  but still funny.

now that summer has begun for my crew, i feel like that hamster.  my day begins with a small child standing at my bed asking me for breakfast.  either that, or an elbow or knee in my face as one tries to climb in beside me to snuggle.  once i'm awake, i get on my wheel.

i make breakfast for everyone, while complete pandemonium goes on in my kitchen.  the kids are all laughing and whooping it up as i clamber around to find coffee and a bite of egg for myself.  all the while, they are asking for this, that, more, help, why, when, will you?....the list is endless of their needs beginning at 8 am.  children are very alert in the early morning.

once they've eaten breakfast, they take their whirlwind to another room.  the kitchen has been successfully destroyed and they are off to find the next room to take down.  usually it's the playroom but have been known to go ahead and begin working on many rooms at one time.  divide and conquer.

as they blow out the kitchen door, i'm left to reasemble and clean the rubble.  i may (or may not) put in a load of laundry as i clean.  and once i've gotten the kitchen almost back to normal, a small person, or two, will usually surface to ask for a drink.  of course.  and one may even have the nerve to ask for a snack.  ummm, didn't you just eat breakfast?  do you have a tapeworm?

i rinse and repeat this method about 5 times a day in the summer time.  3 meals and 2 snacks a day for these guys will keep me very busy.

hamster wheel.

this week, we've been cleaning out their toys to give away, keep or trash.  they've really gotten into it.  we have 3 bins and they load up the bins depending on what they want to do with the toy.  we've done this every day this week, four days so far.  and i'm here to tell you.  toys multiply in the night!  we clean out so much during the day only to find there is still so much more to be done the following day!

hamster wheel.

my children wear a uniform to school so i'm fortunate that we don't have a fight each night or morning over what is to be worn to school.  there are still all the uniform pieces and parts to wash each day....times four!  if i don't run a load (or 4) of laundry each day, i'm in big trouble.  the piles of laundry multiply through the night as well.  i have to stay on top of it.....or i'll be under it.  the summer doesn't really change for my laundry work.  somehow they manage to find several different kinds of clothes to wash.  random clothes.  clothes i haven't seen in months will appear on their little bodies, only to be soiled somehow so that another load of laundry must be done.

hamster wheel.

and moms are amazing at multitasking.  i pride myself in being an octopus!  but sometimes my brain can't keep up with my arms and legs.  i will have all children asking for something at once, my arms and legs will be moving with each word that comes out of their mouth, sometimes i know what they will ask before they even ask it!....and suddenly....i have a malfunction.  i have to stop and stare for a moment.  reboot.  so that i can continue on with my services.  their requests don't seem to end.  this is when i feel like my hamster wheel starts going out of control, i lose my grip and i start to fly around the wheel, tumbling and rolling, spinning and flopping.

hamster wheel.

and yes, it's kinda funny.  how can it not be?  i'm a grown adult and yet, these little tiny people can take me down like a hamster on a wheel.

these are my days of being a hamster.  it's gotten much better over the last few years.  as they get older, they get a little more independent and much more funny!  i can see the light at the end of my hamster tunnel.

you know, i recently read that if a mother hamster detects that something if wrong with her young, she will eat it.  in those moments when things get really rough, i can empathize with a hamster, i kinda understand why a mama hamster will eat her young.

tread lightly, kids.  you don't want mama to get hungry.

Is It My Turn Yet?

there is a common occurrence in our household.  i'm assuming it's the case in many other homes who have children.  my house sounds a little like this...

there's maddox talking non-stop about anything and everything.  he is the center of it all.  conversationalist at its best (and worst).  he can be asking a question and answering it all at one time.  he could talk to a brick wall and not realize it.  he just wants to TALK!

add in zane who is trying to show me tricks.  trying to make me laugh.  trying to show me something, ask me something, get help with something.  making noises with his mouth, his fist, his feet, you name the noise, he's making it.  and if he knows that maddox, or anyone, has my attention, then, by-golly, he is going to figure out a way to get my attention as well.

add in little echo who is right below my feet with a pouty face on.  even her teachers have commented on how far her bottom lip can protrude and they agree that she can hold this face for longer than any child they've seen.  yes, echo is a whiner and a pouter.  she has gotten much better at crying in a very low roar which is nice.  so pout away my tiny princess!  at least it's silent.

and then there's reese.  my rule follower.  my child who does not want to get in the way.  she is a mini mommy when it comes to the other children.  she knows when i'm stressed, she knows when everyone is demanding time with me, all at once, and she tries to hold back.  but, being in a larger family, she too needs to be heard.  so let's add in her constant shoulder tap (because clearly that won't drive me nuts) along with the quiet "mommy, mommy, mommy".  or, if she is feeling really sorry for me, she will simply raise her hand in the air.

now put it all together and what do you get?

one crazy mama.

in these moments, i don't know where to look, who to turn to, which fire to put out, what the most important discussion is, when to stop one child talking and go to another.  who to scold or who to hold.  and half the time, i don't know where my own thoughts and words are...because i'm lost in the chaos around me.

the other day, the children were all going at me with things to say and do,

mommy, did you know.....?
     mommy, could you....?
          mommy, can you....?
               mommy, fix this.....
                    tap, tap, tap.....tap, tap, tap.....(hand going up)
                         pouty face at my feet.......

when zane, out of nowhere, during a very quick silent second said very loudly, "is it my turn YET"!

i have told the children that we need to take turns.  we need to all be able to listen and hear one another.  i've asked them not to talk AT me but to talk TO me.  i have to hand it to zane, he did get my attention.  he got everyone's attention.  well, maybe not maddox's who was still talking about what he had learned in school that day (from start to finish!).

i directed my eyes and attention right to zane.  "yes, it's your turn.  what would you like to say?"

i'm not sure what he said after that, it was something random and ultimately important only because he wanted to have a voice at that moment.  but it wasn't lost on me that he was expressing himself much the same way that i've been going about my prayers lately.

is it my turn yet?

i've been going into my prayers so sheepishly these days.  a little timid and very unsure.  why?  i mean, to be humbled before God is a really good thing but i think that i've taken it a step beyond that.  and not in a step in the right direction.

i've found that i hold out on my prayers a little longer than i did a few weeks ago.  i wait for the "perfect prayer time".  i've always been one to just talk to God, whenever and wherever.  it's the beauty of having a personal relationship with a God who is always there, always ready to listen.  so why have i started to come away from my freedom of prayer?

because there are times in our lives when we have struggles that seem bigger than others.  bigger than big.  struggles that seem more difficult to overcome.  we find ourselves in a place that we want and need to be heard.  we want answers.  we want results.  i have found myself in these stressful struggles lately and instead of consistently asking for big answers, i ask for little answers all day and try to save the really big stuff for later.

ohhh, that prayer is really serious, i'll pray for that later....

hmmmm, that prayer is going to take some concentration, i'll ask for that later....

i'll rattle on about the little things.

     i'll tap, tap, tap.

          i'll raise my hand.

               i'll pout.  (okay, maybe not pouting, but feeling heavy-hearted...and God sees our hearts.)

the truth is.  when i try to pray about the big things lately, i cry.  and i don't like to cry.  or there are moments that i feel like i don't have enough time to pray for the big things.  i tell myself, "i can't interrupt The Big Guy right now, i need to be more focused to pray a prayer that big...".  so i pray for little things throughout the day.  i find a quiet place for the big things.  and that's not all that bad.  i think that's probably good.  but i don't want to feel like i can only pray for the big things at certain times and in certain places.  because it's not how God works.  He listens all the time, to the big and the small.  wherever, whenever.  i don't have to ask, "is it my turn yet" because it's always my turn.  i don't have to try to talk over anyone else or steal His attention from anyone.  He's always focused on me.  and He does that for every one at every moment.

i think i speak for a lot of us when i say that we hand Him things that even we ourselves could fix.  right?  we give Him the tiny prayers, the ones that will be answered in time regardless of our prayer.  the prayers that an unbeliever could figure out and do.    the prayers that don't need a miracle.  the prayers that humans could answer on their own.  little prayers need little answers.  God gave us big minds, so most of these things we can figure out on our own.  but lately, i've had to pray big.  and it's scary.  even to a girl who has big faith.  it's still scary.

is it my turn, yet?  

will You hear my cry?

can i ask You this big question while i'm on the bus, in the grocery store, in the kitchen, at the table, brushing my teeth?  

i know His answer is yes.

i look back on the times when i prayed big.  and although i may not have gotten the answer that i wanted, i was answered with an overwhelming peace and certainty of the direction i should go.  it's been true for many things that heath and i have been through together.  it's certainly been true for the things that i've been through on my own.  it's the times when i've given God the heavy loads that He has pulled through the strongest, the most memorable, the most powerful, the surest and the sweetest.

i'm going to pray big and i'm going to pray boldly.  because i want big and bold answers.  i want big and bold results.  this shouldn't stop me from taking time out to find a quiet place to pray because, ultimately, i think that's when we hear His answers.  and i want to hear His answers.  but i'm going to force myself to pray big at all times, in all places, for all things.

pray big today.  pray boldly.  it's your turn.


"So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most."  Hebrews 4:16

Could You Hand Me That Pine Cone, Please?

when i was around 5 years old, my brother and i were playing "war" in the back yard with a little boy that would come to our house after school some days.  we'd not been playing very long when the boy threw a pine cone right at my face.  it felt like the biggest, pointiest, pine-piniest, pine cone of them all.  it hurt!  i remember crying and knowing that there was blood, although i'm not sure how much, i'm thinking maybe it was only a scratch, but it felt like i was going to die.

while standing there crying, i remember my brother yelling at the boy.  and with one swoop, my brother picked me up and carried me to the house to take me to my mother.  while being carried, i remember feeling that it was worth the blood, worth the pain.  my brother had never carried me before and, to my knowledge, had never taken up for me so aggressively.  he was my hero in that moment.

my brother let me fight my own battles growing up.  i think he knew that i was very willing and able to take a stand for myself.  and i had a big mouth.  he probably didn't want to get in the middle of anything that dealt with me and my drama.  however, the times that i needed him, he would come to my aid.  the day on the bus, when older kids were teasing me, he told them "shut-up and leave her alone." (which was a big deal since "shut-up" was a bad word in our household).   the day that his friend was punching and picking on me a little too hard, my brother stepped in and told the kid to "lay off of her because she doesn't like that." and the time in college when his roommate and i dated for a while.  we stopped dating but the guy still wanted to see me.  my brother had to let him know he needed to back off and leave me alone.  my brother was not the most aggressive but he never had to be.  when he said something, they seemed to listen.  not because they were afraid, but because they knew he was right.

these were such tiny and insignificant moments to anyone else, but to me, they are seared in my memory.  my big brother was defending me. he was taking care of me.  he was never dramatic about it, he would just say it like it was.  simple.  leave her alone.

we recently found out that my brother has hodgkin's lymphoma.  a type of cancer.  we do not yet know the stage or what actions need to be taken.  but we all know that cancer is a very ugly word.  it's a scary word.  it's a word that has recently been pounding in my head like a constant jack hammer.  it's a word, that, up until now, had not touched my closest family members.  it was the word that lurked in corners, stalked others around me, but not yet teased one of my own.

i've spent days walking around half alive, half coma.  i've composed myself at almost all times, but there are moments when the tears come out of nowhere.

like when i'm washing my hands and i think the children won't hear over the running water.

or when i shower and no one will notice the tears.

at night, muffled in my pillow.

after taking my children to school, the moment to breathe...and then cry.

the tears come at the most random times.

my mother said it best when she told me that we would take this news, get over the shock and the sadness and then we are all going to fight.

terry, i wish i had the biggest, pointiest, pine-piniest pine cone.  i would throw that sucker right in the face of your cancer.  i would tell cancer to leave you alone and to lay off of you.  and i'm much more dramatic and hot-headed then you, so i would additionally scream and punch it.  i'd probably even kick it in the nose.

i hesitated to write this today.  my mind tells me not to think about it and not to talk about it and maybe it won't exist, maybe it will go away.  but my faith and my belief in the power of prayer reminds me that God is always at work.  there is power in prayer.  i've experienced it, first-hand.  i've seen what prayer can do.  so i'm going to pray.  i'm going to cry when i need to.  i'm going to take comfort in the peace and understanding that my brother is in the greatest Hands of all.

and i'm going to look for a pine cone.


"As soon as I pray, you answer me; you encourage me by giving me strength."  Psalms 138:3



"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."  Philippians 4:6-7

If At First You Don't Succeed

you may remember my skiing experience last year.   i totally failed out of ski school, heath was having back spasms and having to get all of us from one ski school to the next.  the kids....well, the kids had a really good time.  i mean, zane was only 3 and cried every single day going to ski school.  i would even go up the mountain to watch them ski and he would still be crying.  the instructors would just push him down a hill and he would cry the whole way down.  sad...yet funny.  last year's blog, Swiss Family tells you a little more about it.  

we ended up making great memories and have some amazing pictures to show but i just knew that skiing was not in the cards for me.  when heath mentioned that we go again this year i about gagged but held it all together.  i know he loves to ski and the children actually did really well last year.  i would love for them to have lessons each year so that they do not become like their mom....a ski school dropout.  i half-heartedly agreed to go and the plans were made.  we were going to Peisey-Vallandry, France.  ski trip, take 2.  heaven help us.

i will be honest, i lost a bit of sleep over this trip.  i could envision one (or more) of my children flying off the side of a mountain.  those beautifully snow covered mountains are amazing, yes they are, but they are slippery....and they are high!  and if you fall off, they have no mercy.

it didn't help much more when i awoke bright and early on the day of our departure to coughing/retching sounds. and they were not coming from my own body in dread of our ski journey.  it was heath.  doubled over at the toilet with some sort of convulsive stomach bug.  he swore it was something he ate but i knew better....i'd just gotten over a bit of a stomach bug myself and i knew the bug was now devouring my poor husband.

great.

immediately, i knew it was up to me to get the crew going.  one look at heath's pale face and white lips was a dead give away that if we were going to make this trip happen, it was only up to me.  buckle up, kids, mommy's in total control and it's going to be a bumpy ride.  

i'm not sure how we did it, but we made it safely to our destination.  and it only took a ten minute cab ride, a 30 minute train ride, a 2 hour plane trip and a 3 hour bus to get there!  heath was beginning to gain some color and he could mumble a few words without gagging.  things were really looking up!  score one for the wilson family!

ski school came quickly the next day for our big three.  they were excited and ready.  even zane was happy and upbeat about the lessons.  my, what a year of growth can do!  once we'd gotten them settled with their instructors, we took echo to her class where she would be able to play while we all skied and took lessons.  only she could not be emitted without her "doctor's consent".

say what?

apparently, all children under 4 need a form from their doctor to insure their health.  now, i'm a stickler for healthy kids so, i get it.  but the request for this consent form was in such small print that we needed a magnifying glass to see it.

so off to a french doctor we went.  beads of sweat formed on my forehead as we sat in a tiny, foreign, hot, congested room full of sick adults and children.  the germs were everywhere.  i could have sworn that they were crawling all over me.  i'm sure i looked like a total schizophrenic as i scooted to the left and right to get away from others.  at one point, i would not even sit in the chair because of a lady who was hacking up her lung and allowing her snot-infested child to play at my knees.  i was afraid to make eye-contact with anyone for fear that i would catch something through sight.

i looked over at heath who was sweating as well, only his sweat was because his stomach was still churning and this sauna of a room was not helping his nausia at all!  don't worry, honey, one day we will laugh about this...

after getting the doctor's clear and approval, we took echo to her class.  we were too late to begin our snowboarding lessons.  yes, that's right, snowboarding...i couldn't ski so i was going to take snowboarding lessons.  i mean, clearly, having your feet strapped onto one board with no poles seems easier than having two skies and two poles to hang on to.  (what was i thinking!)

i breathed a sigh of relief!  echo's lack of paperwork had been a blessing in disguise.  i had totally gotten out of my lessons!  i was free!!!

so i went to the spa for a massage.  that's right friends, mama don't waste no time when it comes to relaxing.  i was on it!  this was going to be the best ski trip ever.  i would just spa it each day.  no worries!

and then, later that evening, heath came to me with the news....he'd signed me up for ski school on tuesday.  he excitedly told me that the snowboarding school was full and that since i'd missed my first day, it would be difficult to come in on day 2.  but since i'd had ski school last year, i could easily jump in on day 2 for skiing!....

oh....sweet.

i gave heath a gentle smile and told myself i would give it one last try for him.  i would go to ski school for about an hour and then i would say that it was not for me.  i'm athletic in many other things in life and so it's okay that i'm a total loser at skiing.  i had already accepted this fact and it was only a matter of time before would heath accept it as well.

that night, the kids were kind enough to give me some tips on how to ski (and stay alive).  i tucked them in, thanking them and pretending to be excited and brave.  but deep down, my stomach was churning and my head was spinning.  bring on the nightmares all through monday night.

i arrived early to ski school because i was a nervous nerd and just wanted to get it over with.  as i walked toward my area to meet my ski class, i was given a lump of sugar that was dipped in some liquid.  they said something nicely in french, smiled and dropped the sugar cube in my mouth.  the liquid turned out to be some sort of hard liquor.  i laugh now as i think back to it.  i'm going to be honest, my first thought was, "well, maybe this will help take the edge off".  as the burn settled in my throat and the sugar coated my mouth i told myself this was too funny not to just go with it.  i told myself to give it 100%.  let's just have fun with this mistye, if we come out with a broken bone, we'll just add it to our list of "firsts"!

to make matters worse, the instructor looked almost identical to my cruel and crazy french instructor from last year.  he walked right up and began speaking some random words in french.  i about tucked tail to run but decided to suck it up and get through the day.

once we got to the top of the mountain, i felt as though this was something to overcome.  maybe it was my sweet liquid courage talking but i really felt as though i could do this.  i wanted to conquer my fears.  i wanted to sleep through the night without thinking of slipping off the snowy slope or busting my face on the ice.

bring it, mr french instructor.  i'm going all in!  i may be a 36 year old mama of 4 with all sorts of freakish fears about this sport but i'm going to rock it like it's 1985.  i may not look good doing it, but by golly, i'm going to do it.

and let me just tell you.  i did do it.  i did it down the bunny slopes, i did it down the training slopes, and i did it on the blue slopes.  i even did it down part of a really scary red slope...but that was not on purpose and i don't care to relive that moment so we won't go into it...

i skied tuesday-friday and loved almost (almost) every minute of it.  there were moments when i would see my life flash before my eyes and in those moments i can't say it was too enjoyable but i fought through it and came out the victor!

i can ski!  and i even broke away from my instructor and skied down the mountain with heath on the last day.  just batman and robin through the snow.  i'd like to say it was romantic and peaceful to be able to final ski together.  but it wasn't.  it was more like a freakishly scared cat, claws all out, just trying to stay alive, scaling my way with all four paws spread in every direction....but we managed.  it was "fun".  and next time we go together, it will be even better.

Maddox and Reese loved the slopes!

the kids did amazing as well.  i would get to see reese and maddox in their little duck lines behind their instructors just whipping it through the hills.  i was so proud of them.  (and so scared.)  it was a true test of letting go of my fears and finding peace on those mountain tops.  i'm so glad it worked out the way it did!

our family has had some major adventures together over the last couple of years.  this one definitely goes down as one of our biggest adventures together.  i love that i'm constantly learning.  sometimes i get the opportunity to learn new things right along with my children, which is one of the coolest experiences i've ever had.  to get to see things through their eyes right along with them.  and i've learned the value in never giving up and fighting for that inner peace, no matter what we are dealing with.

we are already planning to ski next year somewhere in the states.  i hear those slopes calling my name.  and they are speaking english.


If at first you don't succeed, try, try, try again.   
William E. Hickson

Reese loved skiing from the start.
She couldn't wait to get back out there
each day!

Maddox did great this year.  He skied for over
2.5 straight hours one day.  

Zane was all smiles this year!  

Echo as a tiger while we skied.  Suffering from a
major ear infection, she was a real trooper
the whole week.  Next year, maybe she'll
be out on the slopes!

Here I Go Again....

several years ago, i heard a bible verse that burned a hole in my heart.  many of you have a verse...or two...or three...that stand out in your mind.  a verse that may have changed you somehow.  a verse that may have helped you to see things in a new light, that gave you strength or hope.  a verse that you wanted to claim as yours.  not all scripture stands out or means the same thing to individual people.  and you may read a verse one year and see it again in 5 and it suddenly jumps off the page at you.  i have a few verses that i love but this is one that i heard years ago and i clearly remember it speaking to me, telling me that i could make a difference.  the verse made me realize that it was something i wanted to follow.  one main part stood out to me;

"...to look after orphans and widows in their distress..."   James 1:27

i know, not nearly the full verse, but then, i've never been really good at memorizing scripture.  thank goodness for google!  i can usually remember pieces, parts or subjects and then i frantically try to look it up to find the full verse.  usually it works out in my favor and i find the scripture i need.

this verse stirs so many emotions in me.  to think of children without parents, wrecks me.  to hear of a widow causes me to practically shut down.  stop breathing.  and maybe it shakes me because it is my greatest fear....to leave my own children as orphans....or to lose the greatest man in my life...my husband.  whatever the reason, i feel called to make a difference.  however small it may be.  i want to help.

for the past several months, i've been very conflicted on how to serve my cambodian orphans.  i have a strong pull to go back and serve these children and show them God's love.  i also have a pull to be home with my family, to be with my own children, to be safe and comfortable with all the people and things i've been blessed with.  but i can't shake it.  it's like a rabid dog stuck to my ankle and the more i try to shake it off, the more it clamps down.

while reading Kisses From Kate (a book i highly recommend) i read a paragraph that left me breathless.  it was the exact way i felt and i knew that i had to go back to see my cambodian children.

"The truth is, I saw myself in those little faces.  I looked at them and felt this love that was unimaginable and knew that this is the way God sees me.  The children would run to me with gifts of stones or dirt and I saw myself, filthy and broken, offering my life to the God of the universe and begging Him to make it into something beautiful.  I sit here in a broken world, small and dirty at His feet, and He who sits so high chooses to commune with me, to love me anyway.  He blinds Himself to my sin and my filth so that He can forge a relationship with me.  And this is what He did for me with these precious children. He blinded me to the filth and disease, and I saw only children hungry for love that I was eager to share with them.  I adored them, not because of who I was, but because of who He is.  I just sat right down on that cold, hard floor and snuggled my nose into their dirty necks and kissed their fungus-covered heads and didn't even see it.  I was in love." Kisses From Kate by Katie Davis

one of my goals this year was to draw closer to God.  for me, there is no better way to be close to Him than to DO for Him.  so, as many of you know, i applied to go back to cambodia.  i recently learned some fantastically, amazingly, crazy-fun news.  i received a phone call that i will, yet again, be going back to see those beautiful faces, and in doing so, see the face of God.

closeness at it's best.

in my excitement.  i looked back at the blog that the mission team kept my first year and i found my very first blog entry ever.  i wanted to share it:


A Little Piece of Heaven
07/26/09

We met the kids TODAY! What an amazing event. My words will not do it justice....just try to imagine over 30 smiling faces greating you as you pile off of a bus. I watched as some of our team got off the bus and walked right into the arms of the most precious little children ever. I stood there on the bus, watching as they hugged last years vets. They all remembered Jon, Mark and Mike WELL and it showed. The children just clung to them and called out their names. As I stepped off the bus, I could only hope to learn a name or maybe get a small hug from a child or two but that was not in the plans for these children...they greated me with open arms as well. We hugged like we'd known each other all of our lives. As we stood there hugging I thought, "if Heaven is anything like this when I enter the gates, then I have a LOT to look forward to". It was a little piece of heaven that God gave me here on earth. I held back tears long enough to enter the church where we would have our service. And then the tears came. I was so overwhelmed with what God had already done for us in just the first meeting....AND WE HAVEN'T EVEN BEGUN!

The children sang songs before and during the service that was such beautiful music. We couldn't understand much but we knew that God was there with us. The sermon was given today from John 12. As the pastor spoke (in Khmer) I decided to read on my own from John 12. This scripture tells about the last 6 days of Jesus' life. The scripture that stood out to me was John 12:26 "Whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will honor the one who serves me." It has been an honor just to be here and serve. It is quite an honor to be the hands and feet of such an amazing God.

We taught the children the Easter story, they made journals in art that they LOVED (glitter and Cambodians....crazy combination) and we played games to teach them that leaning on one another is very important.

It was a great day. We're tired. My bed is calling my name.

-Mistye Wilson

God does not call each of us to do the same things.  we're all made uniquely to serve Him in different ways.  maybe it's why His verses don't have the same effect on each one of us.  but there is a verse, or several, in His Great Book that will speak to us, individually, if we are open to it.  this one of mine, this one i read many years ago has not let go of me yet.  it's not something i felt qualified to do, but i wanted the opportunity to try.  each time i've gone to serve, i've been more scared than the first and felt even less qualified to go.  this time is no different.

however, i remember the sea of faces.  i remember their laughter.  i remember my tears.  i'm a scaredy cat to go and leave my family for two weeks.  but i know God will give me the strength to leave so that i can carry out His work for these children.   and i will return with even more of His strength, bravery and blessings when i'm done.

get ready, little ones.  i'm coming your way!

"Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world".  James 1:27